People are good.

I have the ‘privilege’ of regularly meeting people – both the good and the ‘bad’. With this comes the unavoidable situations where I need to witness the undesirable behavious. Who does not wish to only see the beauty of the rose and live in the ignorance that the torn does not exist? Every beautiful behaviour of one person is also accompanied by other inconsiderate and insensitive beings. So we thus form this world of both haven and hell. However… I strongly believe that everyone is good. Yes there are some outliers who will sting even when we reach out to help them. However in general we humans are made out of goodness, stained by the darkness with the passage of time. Why should we be allowed to be stained? That is something each and everyone of of us should give a thought to. We react to a situation – good or bad. The manner in which we react is what will define us and what we will make ourselves to be.

I remember a story of how a teacher asks 2 of his students – one good and the other bad – to venture out in the world to fulfil a task. The good student is tasked to find one bad person and vice versa for the bad student. At the end of a long day they came back, both empty-handed. “I could not find a single bad person”, claimed the good student. “I could not find any good person”, exclaimed the bad student.

We see in others what we see in ourselves. The others are a reflection of ourselves. We make the world the way we perceive it to be. We make believe what we believe in. We are not only made out of situations…we are better than that. There is greatness and there is goodness in each one of us. Let us not be fooled to follow the path of the devil, but believe there is goodness in all… give everyone a chance. It begins with us.

We are good. People are good.

Alone – What do you feel?

We are almost always amongst our colleagues, friends, family and loved ones. How often are we left alone? What happens when we are along? What is that feeling? Do you feel alone and start to call someone to talk to? Do you dress up and leave the ‘lonely’ state and get to the city to be amongst the ‘crowd’? What is being alone mean to you? I realise now that many could actually feel lonely and a good number might feel ‘scared’.

It seems, not many could actually appreciate the pause in the routine cycle of things –  for us to put a break in our daily activity and evaluate life in general. We can go to a nice, cosy corner, and read our favourite novel or serve the internet, updating our Facebook and Twitter… or even catch some funnies in YouTube. Maybe, we can even make ourselves a nice hot chocolate or cold beer, whichever suits us, and turn up the volume on our Surround Speaker and watch our favourite Blu-Ray movie on our HDTV. Or maybe, tidy up our table or pictures we have taken for Christmas… or follow up on some backlog of work… or SMS/email a old friend… or write a diary or share your feeling on WordPress… or go repair that leaking pipe, setup the External Hard Disk or Wireless Router that you just purchased, which is sitting there in the corner…. or maybe get some exercise… or really just unwind and play an online game or simly get some sleep to get recharged… or get some alcohol in your system and do all of the above in the floating state.

Maybe you should try to reconnect with our past and see what you missed out doing. May it be painting, listening to some classics, stamp collecting, looking through our album, or reading some poems… or watching some old movies that we used to enjoy 20 years back. Maybe we can be adventurous and drive our car to a place we have loved to go a long time now, or simply let your heart define the route. Or you could even take a bus and sit there and be absorbed with the world around you.

All of the above are something we can do anytime, but when do we even chose to do it? The moment we are given that precious space in our packed life, what do we choose to do? We can choose to just waste it, only to dump it with the notion that there will always be many such opportunities or simply to even take it as a ‘scary’ moment to ‘endure’ through… or we can cherish it and make every moment of that worth its while. Whichever path we choose are our choices. Choices on how we spent our life, our time and precious moments.

There is so much to do. That is… if we want to do them. Those ‘spare’ moments we have are to be cherished. It is really up to us to make those moments make something out of us. A routine ‘maintenance’ for ourselves by ourselves. To re-align our path to take a better route… or simply to find the better us. Let us value those moments… let us make it worth the while… let us give solitude its rightful place. Live well.

Greatness…. we define it.

I like to drink (alcohol of couse) – all the time actually. However I don’t get to do it often. I have a family and as a responsible father who sets an example for his kids, I have to restrain myself. Why do I like to drink? I am not the kind who gets drunk and start becoming rowdy and all. I drink to get high, not drunk. When I am high, I become sober… and more at peace. I find a level of peace and I start to self reflect more when I am high. I will totally agree if I am branded oxymoronic. I like to drink and I am no connaisseur, although I drink with that pretext. I wish not to drink, but I do it now and again – why?

I have not taken drugs, but if you have I guess you will know what I am not talking about. We all want something to give a  sense of ‘purpose’. A moment to be ‘free’… a moment to be what we want to be… a moment to float in the stillness of time. I am in no way advocating drinking or drugs – in fact I totally dispice it. Then again, there is a part of me which just want to live in a subconscious world. A part of me that is weak and falls slave, chained up and confined in the cell that my mind puts me in. I am slave to myself – not to say I have no control over it, but I crave it… I enjoy it. My ‘choice’ of not wanting it does not change the fact that I am still a slave – of my choosing… of my craving. I never really got addicted to any particular evil, even though I tried ‘diligently’, just to experience what is that addiction that destroys a person and his/her life and family in the process. Maybe I am just blessed to be immune to addiction of the ‘dark’ kind, but that does not mean I have completely overcome it. To not allow oneself to be conquered and to have full control over oneself are two different things – one is a state of ‘constant’ and the other a state of ‘completeness’.

Much is expected of those who put themselves on a higher moral pedestal. What is more important is for each one of us to evaluate ourselves with high expectations – to look at ourselves and expect nothing short of greatness. No one is perfect – but each and every one of us strive to be perfect – to overcome our own demons, whichever size or shape they come in. Overcoming our demons is not easy – in fact it is the probably the one thing that is so integrated with us that we might feel lost without it. Such is the power of that leech. That is why greatness is never easy – that is why is called greatness… not good… not very good… not excellent… but greatness!

The biggest hurdle we need to go through to reach a higher state of being, is not out there, but in us. It knows our weakness and it feeds on that. Greatness is never easy. It is not about being capable of greatness, it is about the willingness to be great. Many have told me “Choice does not mean anything. I can choose to be a President but I can never be.” – well that is not choice. Let me share a true story of a famous leader as I have heard it with some enhancements.

The teacher in the class asked the students what they want to be when they grow up. There were some wanting to be a doctors, engineers, lawyers, teachers and so on. One kid stood up and said he wanted to be a Prime Minister. The teacher jokingly asked ‘There can be only one (sounds like ‘Highlander’) Prime Minister in this whole country, it is almost impossible. Maybe you might want to be something else’ – to which the student replied ‘There is only one person in this class who wanted to be a Prime Minister’.

You see, we become what we believe in. The believe or the seed of the desire for greatness does not exist in all. The fact that we believe is the step towards greatness.

Greatness is about choice. We choose that. Let’s us take the first step forward.

Technology, our partner…

Today I installed WordPress on my iPhone – just finding suitable ways to have technology make life a little easier. It seem to be working fine so far – but there seem to be a lot of complaints about the uploading function. I will know in a while if this goes through.

A good part of my life is spent on having technology assist me. As much as many would find it intimidating… I don’t just find it a challenge to tame the furious, powerful bull, but has made this gentle giant my friend. Having had now grown together with my good friend technology, I wouldn’t say I can’t live without it, but more like we are good partners who can achieve greatness together.

Life is a wonderful journey and the technology is one amazing partner who shapes our lives. The path bringing us along the journey of life may be the same but the way we travel and the way we handle obstacles along the way can be drastically altered with technology. Treat it well and it will reciprocate.

It makes a difference

So as the new year dawns, and while we talk about the purpose in life, there is one thing that we can do to make a difference. We can blog to make the world a better place – cliché you may say, but it is true… It depends on what you belief and the difference you set out to achieve. We need to have good intention, good thought and ideas to share with the world. Remember the story of the Starfish… ‘It makes a difference’. I have decided to make use of The DailyPost, and the community of other bloggers to do my part – to make that difference.

Quiet Moments…

Today has been quiet. It sure gets quiet without anyone around. Very quiet in fact. This moment that so is presented to me is so precious that I need to log it down.

What does this quiet do to us? For one, it gets us off the wheel and let us have a look around us. Did we notice that there were some emails that we have chucked one corner… did we notice the various websites we have yet to explore… new technology and new things that we can be done? There are some who will be totally lost with this free time. I am too… lost in a different way – on how to make so much of this short little window.

I can feel my breath. I can feel my heat beat. I can feel happiness. It feels like I are one with nature. As if I can communicate with the surrounding. And now my mind starts to think… or rather wander. Now this is where I start to think about life.

What is this life? What do we really achieve in living? I mean, in the end we are all going to die and there is no medal that we are bringing along with us. I feel envious of those who has a religion – which gives them something to believe it. But  the fact is… once your mind expands to a certain point, having had seen beyond the horizon, it can never be contained within the parameters defined. Religion is a great anchor. I have had explored them for many years or even decades, but is just that… once you have gone deep in, the tsunami of spiritual aspirations just could not be confined within these boundaries. Many do no aspire to go beyond, for at the end of the square world, we will all tip over and fall. Well then again, is there any need to do so? For me.. Yes! There is.

I remember when I was young… I used to visit different places of worship. Whichever one I went to, I loved them all. The peace and tranquility that I sense there is wonderful. I always envied the great sages and saints all my life…. and I could sense their  true happiness – To be free. To be one with all. To be the present in the presence.

My mind wanders again… I am getting old. We all are. What have we achieved? Yes, we have a family and there are many religions to choose from… We have money to get almost whatever we want. But what have we achieved? Or is it even necessary to bring up that question? I want to achieve… I want to do something with my life before it slips me by. Money has never made me happy. I mean… I do breath in relief when I get the cheques to keep my life going, but that is not happiness… that is relief. I get a nice gadget around  the house, it is not happiness, it is trill. I get nice shoes and suits to look good – that is not happiness either, that is vanity. I take a glass of gin – that is fake happiness, like a sugar substitute. We do many things in life… how many of them bring us happiness. Most of the things we do are in the pursuit of happiness… In the hope that that action will make us happy… but do they? Instead they act like drugs, giving us an instant high, but fizzes out eventually.

So I need to pursue my journey toward Happiness. Towards Peace. Towards Solitude.

Focus.

Today… I have decided to make the best of the day! For one.. drink lots of water – yes, it looks sudden, but never undermine the importance of water for the physical well-being which directly co-relates to the mental well-being. And these are the foundations on which the flight of the mind propels itself towads greatness. So… drink lots of water! BE FOCUSED to get most if not all those backlogs and deadlines attended to or even to chip off the ends of the tough ones. Do the most difficult one first. When to take down the ‘leader’ (ie the most difficult item from the pack), the soliders will fall automatically. So a long order… limited time… but an unwaivering determination. So let’s get started!

Temptation of the Dark Side…

So another day has passed… and I didn’t do anything better.. Better as in I didn’t really make a major difference in anyone life – not that I consciously noticed. I didn’t really help any old lady to walk across the road – anyway it is so pa se.

However, I did gouge down a lot of scrumptious food – lots of them and am now topping up with instant noodles with some sinful drink to accompany it in the middle of the night. Maybe I would need more of this… let me get one more. So what have I done today? And what am I doing now? It is as if  I am turning to the dark side – and you know what? Isn’t is more fun than playing the harp all day long? Ya. It sure is fun. There is no need to worry about the good that needs to be done, or the peace that I think I so need to seek. I have my solitude now… with a computer in front of me, more unhealthy food and drink to accompany my lonely soul.

What has happened to me? Where has my unwaivering positivity and innocent smile gone? I do have it but it seem to be getting harder and harder to keep up. Everyday the cloud of sad faces and dark forces surround me and it just gets more taxing to fight them back. Maybe I am tired… maybe I just need to let go and slide down the path… maybe I just should give up the quest….

… and maybe that is where I should fight and stay strong. Nothing is going to bring me down! I am not some silly soul… I believe I have a purpose… a much greater purpose being here. I have yet to fully realise it, but I am special. We all are! I need to not give up… not give in… but hold my head up high… and keep fighting….

So It Begins…

Solitude.

Solitude. What does it really mean? It is definitely not loneliness… for only those who are ignorant define it as such – who knows not about the silence that speaks… know not about the pleasure the presence of the absence presents… knows not about the peace and tranquility that this nothingness brings.

Why this blog?

It is not about sharing, although I do hope I could ignite some spark in those who read this, but it is just me talking to myself. I belief we all have our good self and our evil self. Everyday it is a battle. We see a blind man trying to cross the road, but we are late for work – make it an urgent meeting you have to attend to… will we help him? If we think there is someone else who is ‘less important’ who can help him, and of course there are so many of them all around you, allowing us to diffuse our ‘responsibility’ in a guilt-free manner, what have we chosen to do – walk away. What does that make us?

So I begin writing this, for it is not for you… but for me. I want to speak to myself. I want to break away from the cycle of daily, routine, chained life to be able to spent some quality time to allow my true self to shine through. To be a better person. To be a better soul.

So I begin this journey.
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