There are many moments in our lives where we have been sad, worried, anxious, depressed and feared… to the point of total exhaustion. There are some moments which are a lot more intense and extreme and you could literally mark it as the bottom points in your lives. There are some things you can change and others you can’t. You worry about those you can’t and you worry more about those thing you still hope you could have changed.
When there is so much pain, it is really difficult to focus… to keep the head straight. Maybe that is why that pain is inflicted in the first place? The pain is so excruciating and possibly the worst point in your life that you also realise what is important to you. Sometimes we need hard knocks… and some other times very hard knocks to wake us up.
Finding peace in moment of turmoil might seem a little oxymoronic. I ask for God patience and he gave me annoying people to deal with. Similarly, I asks him for clarity and I was given some of the most difficult situation where I am losing my mind.
To create, sometimes one needs to fall apart. To crawl and find a way to walk again and to built it all stronger.
We go through some painful lessons in life. We tell ouselves not to ever come back to that dreaded situation again. We remind ourselves time and again not to … and not to… and then… we find ourselves in the exactly same situation.Sad as it may, sometimes it take another rap on the knuckles or even two to wake us up. Complacency creeps in all the time.
As much as we will need to learn from our history, and not to let history repeat itself again, our learnings from the repeated ‘offence’ are different. It acts as both a reminder and to built our strong conviction. It makes us stronger… remind us about matters that really matters – which we conveniently forget or choose to forget.
But we need to learn. As stupid as it may sound making those same mistakes repeatedly, maybe we need to check for a pattern… maybe there is more to the actual mistake that we probably could have missed out in the first place… maybe there is a different lesson we could learn from it now. Whatever the situation, we need to learn from it… remember it… and re-live the pain to re-learn the lessons.
Let the misery live on… for that is the punishment for failing to learn the lessons. Let the time drowned in misery be a deep cast message to not to forget this again. Let there be permanent measures never to revisit this path again.
Let there be peace once this is all over.
How often we have talked about Fear as it was something to overcome? How many of us feel fear is a weakness? How many of us take it such that the opposite of fear is strength?
Fear is not a negative. Fear balance positiveness, to pace it, to bring out the better part of the positive. Understanding fear allows us to understand ourselves, our limits and our setbacks. Fear forces us to be better, for we fear it so much, we want to run through the other end of not fearing what we used to fear. Through of lives, we have feared many things. When we were young, we fear ghost and little green monsters. as we grow older we fear broken families, relationships, exams, competitions…. and as we move with time we fear death, and more so public speaking.
Fear does not kill, but it can give a sense of dying, so much so you wished you were dead. What is it that we fear? Fearing what was going to or not going to happen, what might or might not happen or even what may not or never happen? We don’t want it to happen so much we play it over and over in my mind causing our own fear. There are some who fear repercussions for their wrong or right actions, fear vengeance and fear punishment.
Fear is a good thing to have. It makes us what we are. How we react to this fear will make us what we will be. And it also guides us to the right path when the mistake is ours to fear.
Fear is not the opposite of courage. Fear is Fear. Accept and understand it – to be a better person.